Can you be lucky?

Have you ever wondered why some individuals are just born lucky and others aren’t. why there seems to be these two categories of human beings on earth. maybe you have even put yourself into one of the categories under some circumstances. Check this out: You enter a store, walk around a little and you see a wrist watch that your wife might like. Unable to make up your mind at the spot, you carry on with your window shopping. Having given it more thought, you decide to go back and get it. Guess what, some else is already paying for it at the counter!!! (I am sure you knew where this will end). But you saw it only 5 minutes ago!!! Ok now lets get a little serious. Kelvin started a business 5 years ago and his brand has become the biggest brand in town. He has made a lot of money and his customer base is enviable. You started yours, 10 (yes 10) years ago. And you have hardly even broken-even, investors are angry and customers are dissatisfied. Is it luck, favour or what , you ask yourself. Or maybe you have even permanently classified yourself as either being lucky or unlucky. Well, you are not alone (many have, many had). But maybe you need to modify your thinking a little by renewing your mind. I got this from a book I read recently ‘ so where does the ability to spot luck come from? According to Richard Wiseman a psychologist at the university of Hertfordshire in England who conducted a ten-year study of luck, people’s thought and behaviour are often responsible for their good luck and fortune. Wiseman broke these skills down into four basic principles. Writing in sceptical inquirer magazine in 2003, he noted that lucky people are ‘skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.’ In other words, a bad event to someone with bad luck is a disaster – but to a lucky person, a bad event could easily have been much worse. Conversely, Wiseman found that ‘unlucky people are more tense and anxious which means that they tend to miss things that are staring them in the face. Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for’ Bang! If you are like most people, then I am sure that your ever sensitive mind is trying to accept or reject the above proposition. Well guess what, it doesn’t make sense – I mean the proposition. But come to think of it, isn’t that the reason why it is so true. Most of the things that make sense are done by everybody, they end up being commonplace ideas. But the things that don’t make sense are uncommon and they make all the difference. So when next you find yourself getting into a victim’s mindset, or feeling unlucky, I suggest that you remember the above words. Moreover, I am not sure that comparing yourself with others is the most suitable way to live your life. OK, I know that its good for you to create benchmarks for yourself for measurement sake, but it shouldn’t define your person as lucky or unlucky. Its all in the mind.

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